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More than a year after her separation with Gerard Piqué, Shakira has once again received media attention due to an alleged romantic relationship with the British Formula 1 driver, Lewis Hamilton. Given these rumors, the question arises as to how long one should wait after a love break, so specialists give an estimate.
Ending a love relationship generates pain, which is why a grieving process is experienced in which one must take the necessary time to heal. The interpreter of Eyes like this has expressed this stage of her life with music. Since her break with the former soccer player was announced, Shakira has expressed herself with songs. With hits like Te felicito, Monotonía and BZRP Music Sessions # 53, we have witnessed her grieving process.
Just like mourning the death of a loved one, ending a love relationship goes through denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
Psychology experts affirm that Shakira is in the acceptance phase, because now she goes out more to live with other people, discover new places and meet her friends again.
In addition, with her latest song Acrostic, which is dedicated to her children Milan and Sasha, “she accepts that she is single but that she has a family that is her children. That is what she aspires to in the mourning process, to come to an acceptance with her current life, without changing anything. If we do not reach this stage, then we are not prepared for a new relationship”, explains the psychologist Mario Velásquez.
When is it recommended to start a new love relationship?
In recent weeks it is believed that Shakira and Lewis Hamilton are in a loving relationship, after they were seen aboard a yacht and the singer has attended Formula 1 events. In addition, a photograph went viral on social networks in the one that sees both of them in a restaurant.
After these meetings, People magazine stated that the interpreter of Hips Don’t Lie and the British pilot would be in the early stages of an affair. That is why they are spending time together and are in the stage of getting to know each other better.
Given the supposed confirmation that both celebrities would be starting a relationship, the question arises as to whether it is too soon for Shakira to have a new illusion, after the media separation she had with Gerard Piqué.
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“If it’s a relationship that lasted less than five years, then the grieving process or preparing to start a new one can last six months or a year. Although it depends on how the relationship ends, if it was a tragic ending then it could take more time”, explains Velásquez.
In case the relationship has lasted more than ten years, then the ideal is to wait for the first and second anniversary of special dates. For example, the first birthday, the anniversary of the beginning of the relationship, Christmas, New Year, etc., because these specific days are difficult to spend since one had the illusion of living them together.
“For these dates it is common for us to rethink why the relationship ended and return to the stage of denial or anger. That is why it is important that we live those emotions and accept them, before getting excited about someone else”, adds Evelyn González, clinical psychologist.
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On the second anniversary it is more likely that you will not have strong emotions, even that they are unnoticed dates. Then, it will be one of the signs that it has been healed.
For psychologists, it is not a question of Shakira not being able to have a relationship with Lewis Hamilton because there are really no exact details of how her relationship with Gerard Piqué ended. Although it is known that they announced their love break for more than a year, it could be that they had ended much earlier.
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“The time of mourning is a recommendation, not an imposition. Each person can take the time they consider necessary. With Shakira we have few details, so we cannot judge her decision to start a new love relationship. There are those who find the necessary tools to accept their emotions and that helps them heal faster, in their case it could be music”, says González.
