Global Courant 2023-05-08 14:01:30
For decades, women have conquered new spaces in society. They are no longer relegated solely to domestic chores but, without ceasing to take care of household chores, they have become more professional. They even represent a majority in universities and work practically on a par with men. However, many of them cannot avoid the “bad mother syndrome”.
The problem opens another question: Why don’t men consider this discomfort? Don’t they have the same obligations and responsibilities? Can’t feel like “bad parents”?
According to the latest Time Use Survey published in 2022 by INDEC, men spend an average of 3.4 hours per day on household and care tasks; while women spend 6.3 hours, that is, almost three more hours.
“It would be necessary to produce a social separation so that women who are biological mothers do not feel the pressure of having to agree with the demands that are placed on them. The bad mother syndrome occurs when the exercise of the maternal function contradicts personal desires, ”she reflects.
Adriana Guraieb is a psychologist from the International Psychoanalytic Association. “For centuries, being a mother has been considered the ultimate achievement of women. This sacred and biblical mandate still has a very deep weight in the culture that implies always putting her own needs first, renouncing or postponing desires, objectives and goals, ”she tells this medium.
“The achievements that women achieve in so many areas are blurred in the effective exercise of motherhood, between the extremes of side B and side A, between fundamentalisms and what we should or should not do,” outlines Suárez.